My high school sweet heart of all 4 years of high school proposed (I was 17), I said yes. I look back now, and obviously I think to myself that I was way too young. We ended up breaking up at the beggining of my senior year, I decided that I was going to school out of the city, he decided he didn’t want to attend college, obviously we wanted VERY different things out of life.
The same year I met and started dating a guy who was 5 years older than me. I ended up getting very homesick and moved back to Phoenix. My mom did not want me to date the older guy so he asked me to move in with him. We were only together at the time for a couple of months. After living together for 6 months (a very disfunctional realtionship) he proposed, I said yes. We had a date set and everything. He became violent on more than one occasion… he hurt my mom’s dog while we were house sitting and I decided that was it….. to hurt a defenseless creature was beyong my comprehension. I broke up with him moved back in with my mom. I tried to stay happy single and figure out what I wanted.
Then BAM, I met a marine stationed at Camp Pendleton 6 months later. We casually dated for a few months, then I was his girlfriend, and now 8 months later he’s asking me to marry him. I’m not taking it too seriously, there’s no ring on my finger.
Is there something wrong with me? Am I sending out a signal that says MARRY ME or something? I work at an elementary school (I"m going to ASU for my BA in education), my friends, family and coworkers would all describe me as caring, nurturing, and cute. I like to cook and bake and scrapbook. I love kids. I’ve always been able to see myself getting married young, but I’m afraid that people just won’t take my relationships seriously anymore….
Premarriage counseling should be in your future, no matter who the guy is. There is nothing wrong with putting in a little time in a marriage. You’re still young…enjoy life!
And are you prepared to be a MILITARY WIFE??? Its not easy. I am a Navy wife, and its not always easy. So think about that too.
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You are too young. Finish college and enjoy single life before settling down.
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why should they take anything you do seriously? you act like a floozy.
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There’s nothing wrong with you. Just relax and don’t rush in to anything with the new guy. You’re young…take some time for yourself. Travel, eat Oreos for dinner, whatever you want to do. Because you won’t be able to be as free after you get married.
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Wait till your 26-27
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YOu accepted your first proposal after dating for 4 years. That’s reasonable.
You accepted your second proposal after dating 8 months. That makes you a risk taker, and someone who is desperate to get married.
Now, after 8 months with the new guy, you’ve been proposed to again. Obviously, there’s something about you that men want to take home to mother. Instead of accepting, why not wait a bit to see if the relationship is any good? 8 months is hardly enough time, especially since you are only 20.
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Umm – why the hell do you keep saying "yes" to all these lame proposals?
I have been engaged twice in my life – my first husband, and my second husband. My first I was married for 10 years, and I am still married to my second husband.
You are the one who is jumping both feet to these relationships – moving in with people, getting serious — slow down.
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Honey, you’re all over the board. How old are you now? Of course there is nothing wrong with you. These men asked you because you’re obviously a good person with a kind heart. Those are compliments! Take being asked to get married as a positive sign for yourself. Secondly, you’re said "people won’t take your relationships seriously?" People as in who? Who cares who doesn’t take something seriously? When you meet the man you should be married to, it will only matter to you and him. That’s all that matters. Everyone else doesn’t matter. What you think of yourself matters. If anyone else can sit there without fault and point a finger, I’d like to see it. The right one will come along in time. Just relax, enjoy your life, enjoy your career. You have a ton to offer someone and it will happen. In the meantime, you don’t have to divulge every single episode of your life to every man who you date. It’s not their business. You share what you’re comfortable with. Good luck.
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Premarriage counseling should be in your future, no matter who the guy is. There is nothing wrong with putting in a little time in a marriage. You’re still young…enjoy life!
And are you prepared to be a MILITARY WIFE??? Its not easy. I am a Navy wife, and its not always easy. So think about that too.
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The problem is not that other people won’t take your relationships seriously. The problem is that you do not take relationships seriously. Or, you do, but you are naive. The second guy was the best example. What in the world were you thinking when you said yes to a man with whom you were in a "dysfunctional" relationship? So you’re caring, that’s great, but does it blind you to reality? So you’re nurturing, also great, but does that mean you don’t hold your men accountable for their own behaviors? You need to start looking at your life, your relationships, and your choices more soberly and realistically, for your sake, not just so other people will take you seriously!
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Well, sometimes that happens to people. One of my bfs asked me to marry him 4 months after dating him but i said no, and then i met my husb like 1 yr later and he proposed 3 weeks later we met and i said yes, obviously. Both proposals were b4 my 20′s too. I guess it depends on the kind of person you are, idk.
take as a compliment as one women said, b/c not any women gets asked that many times b4 their 20′s BELIEVE ME. Some women have to beg for it.
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you have been through a lot of serious relationships for your age. I too have the same question. I meet men and they all want to seriously marry me within a month, then after a year or so things change. So, Im thinking about staying engaged longer about 2 years then make a decision. " I too have a good head on my shoulders I should say" Im very disciplined and I think Im pretty. So, I really dont know, the answer to your question, all I can tell you is wait to get married, wait to move it together at least 6 months, if its possible. Man love to wait for a good thing.
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Camp Pendleton is chock full o’ pedophilezzz. sssorrooo
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I dont think that there is anything wrong with you i just think that maybe deep down you really want to get married and so maybe you sending that signal, however it think that you should tell mr marine that you really want to wait to get married, you are still very young and i think that you need to be comfortable with yourself where you are in life before you get into another engagement, if he loves you he’ll understand
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